Intimacy

“To have someone understand your mind is a different kind of intimacy.”

Oh the truth behind this quote. 

I’d like to share with you the story of human creation as told in Greek mythology:

Humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two beings condemning humankind to forever search for their other half.

Some people call your other half your soul mate or your twin flame. I feel like I have been searching endlessly for my other half. In my past relationships I fell in love with certain aspects of that person. One man was my high school sweetheart who shared my love of music, one was a firefighter I fell in love with for his hard work ethic and his moral responsibility, one was the typical “bad boy”…I don’t feel the need to explain that attraction, and the most recent man I fell in love with because he made me feel safe and secure. He loved me and took care of me. He worked hard every day and is the kind of man any woman would dream of having. 

So why did my last relationship fail? If he was so perfect why are we not together anymore? Why do I feel like I wasted three and a half years of my life? 

The answer is I didn’t waste any time at all. I found that we never connected on an intellectual level. I’m not saying he is a stupid person, not in any sense. He is extremely intellegent. What I am implying is we never took the time to understand eachother’s minds. The physical connection was amazing, and we all know that great sex is 50% of a relationship, but as I went on my journey of discovering who I was and what I wanted in life, I realized that he never understood what was going on in my mind. On the flip side, I didn’t understand how his mind worked either. Granted I didn’t realize that I was an empath or suffering from depression an anxiety so I didn’t know how to express myself. I am not great at face to face communication. Give me a pen and paper and I can tell you anything. Stand in front of me asking for answers to life, I’ve got nothing. So you can understand how that relationship came to an end.

Then I met my Gemini. I noticed him before he noticed me. Definitely a physical yearning there but more importantly than that, he took the time to get to know what was going on in my head. He makes me talk. He makes me put into words what I feel on a daily basis. He makes me reflect on what is making me distraught. He literally knows everything about me. Everything. We talk for hours on the phone almost everyday. My gemini is the one who really pushed me to be happy, to take on life with a new appreciation of the gift I have been given. “To have someone understand your mind is a different kind of intimacy.” 

I’ll share one such instance with you. After my breakup, I felt that I needed something in my life. I have a love for dogs. They are my children. I have one dog, Dixie, who has been with me for 3 years and I love her with all of my heart. But I needed something more, so I decided it was time to get another puppy. I called my Gemini and told him I was getting a puppy. Instead of telling me “you don’t need another dog, you need to focus on yourself” he instantly replied “I know why you’re getting a puppy and I fully support that decision.” He understood that being empathic I am very susceptible to feelings and energy. I needed to feel peace and happiness. A puppy exudes peace. Even when he’s running around biting my feet and driving me insane, because well he’s a puppy, I feel happiness and pure love. My gemini understood that without me having to explain anything. 

I have finally found what I have been missing in my relationships. Now, am I dating this mysterious man? Well, no. It’s hard to have a relationship with someone who is literally a world away from you. But he has taught me that I need to find someone who understands me. I need to take the time to understand someone else. That is literally the best kind of intimacy you can have with another human being.

Don’t settle for someone. Find that person who wants to know YOU. Be picky. Your other half is out there somewhere just waiting for you to find them.

Blessed be!

Seraphina 

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4 thoughts on “Intimacy

  1. Just what I needed to hesr today! Thank you for sharing!
    May you be blessed throughout this wondrous journey called life. I’m currently on the “road back to me” and am finding exactly what ❤you speak of to be absolutely essential. Blessed be

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