Another Tidbit from the Fast Lane

We are the people our parents warned us about. Yup. It’s true. But you know what? We realize that you only have one life to live. So smoke, drink, and do whatever the fuck you want. Just make sure you have your shit together. Spend your money in the right places and have some responsibility. Being an adult is hard work and I know I’m still learning how to do it. Honestly, we will never fully “learn” how to adult properly. That’s half the fun. 

Living in the fast lane is great! You pass all the people that you don’t need in your life. The ones that can’t drive. Sometimes you’ll get that asshole that goes 5 miles under the speed limit in the fast lane and slows down traffic, but eventually you’ll get around them. Those are the people who think they can handle it but really can’t. They are very good at slowing down the people around them. I know I’ve said this before but misery loves company.

 So if you can’t handle it, move over and let everyone else get on with their lives. Stop being a roadblock. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something to change your life. Stop focusing on bringing other people down with you. That’s bullshit. The. End.

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Alcohol Part 1 – The Cocktail

Every time I see this word I think of that country song by Brad Paisley. The one where alcohol makes you put that lamp shade on your head. I can’t read this word as ‘alcohol’, I read it as he sings it ‘alllll-cah-haaaaaaallllll’. Once you hear that song, you will never see that word the same again!

My own recipe for a pink Starburst shooter. I also make them as drinks, and I suppose you can make them into martinis too.

So why the post about alcohol? Well, my life revolves around it. You can’t bartend without alcohol, according to the song, it helps white people dance (we all know that one guy), and really brings people together (unless you’re that angry drunk that wants to fight everybody and their brother when you drink).

Watermelon Basil Margarita from BJ’S Brewhouse. They look so pretty!

One of my favorite things to do when bartending is make cocktails. Mixology has become increasingly popular throughout the years and rightfully so! You combine your knowledge of flavors to create the perfect cocktail. It’s a science. It’s math. It’s art. It’s beauty. And it gets people drunk. Which is the ultimate goal right? To make people feel good? I know I strive to make my customers feel happy and welcome. What better way to do that than with a perfectly crafted mixed drink?

Handcrafted Lemon Drop Martini. I really enjoy making these as martinis. There is just something about putting a perfect sugar rim on a martini glass that makes you feel so accomplished!

My fellow bartender best friend, Scorpio, and I are planning a trip to New York City to take a mixology class. Why? Because why not? Go to New York, shop, eat, dance, drink, and learn how to make the most fabulous cocktails ever. One thing about being a bartender, you can NEVER stop learning. The bar world changes so fast and so much that you HAVE to go take courses, read articles online, watch YouTube videos, etc. in order to keep up with trends. 

The “it” thing right now with cocktails is fruit and herbs. That’s right. Fresh raspberries in a cocktail? Ok. Elaborate garnishes with bright green limes, exquisitely cut orange slices, that perfectly yellow lemon wedge, leafy stalks of celery in bloody marys? Ok. Let’s through some pineapple, limes, cherries, and an orange in there and muddle it all together. Ok, sure. That probably wouldn’t taste too great but you catch my point. Rum and cokes are a thing of the past. You better get used to ordering a Sex On A Fire Truck, or a Strawberry Mojito, or a White Peach Margarita (which includes slices of peach in the drink). 

Here is me in my natural habitat behind the bar. Martinis for days!

Have fun with your alcohol! Order those fancy fru-fru drinks…it’s ok!! Learn new things. Love what you do! Make people happy!

Adventures

Adventures aren’t always traveling far away. They can be as simple as going to Waffle House at 3am or a spontaneous trip to the river five minutes from your house. Adventures don’t always have to be with someone else either. You could take a trip to a little hole in the wall used book store or take yourself out to lunch. 

It’s always fun with somebody though. Everyone needs that one person to randomly do shit with. That friend that will call you at 2pm and say “get dressed we’re going on an adventure”. 

Be that friend. Call someone close to you and go do something. Go get coffee. Go get tattoos. Do an impromptu photo shoot in the park near your house. 

Getting ready to move across the country, I’m looking for my adventure buddy. Be that a romantic partner or a friend…doesn’t matter. I’d love to have someone pack everything up and travel with me. On the way to Arizona we will stop at all the breweries on the way. Site see, stay in motels, sing loudly to every song on the radio, just enjoy being together. We can go anywhere and do anything. The world is our playground.

Now accepting applications 😉

Blessed be!

Seraphina

A Little Bit From the Fast Lane

Yes, you read that right. Fuck ’em. If you don’t have haters then you aren’t living your life to the fullest. 

Gossip and rumors happen but you have to learn how to let it roll off your back. Understand that people talk. Boring people talk about you because you are more beautiful, successful, and intellegent than they will ever be. 

I know you’re probably thinking “that is so high school”. You’re right. The people that start this shit are still stuck in high school. They were most likely bullies and had nothing going for them and still don’t, so they resort to spreading rumors and false truths about the successful people around them. They will also be extremely coniving and do things to ruin other people’s livelihoods to get the job that they desire. They know that they have no real skills and have to undermine someone else in order to get where they want to be. Yes, it’s bullshit, but yes it happens. I’ve seen it so many times. We love in a world where no one wants to put effort in anymore, they want the easy way out, or in. 

My advice? Stay away from these people. They will talk about you no matter what but if you leave them be to suffer in their own misery, you won’t fuel their fire.

Remember misery loves company. So fuck ’em. Do you and be you and don’t worry about anyone else.

Blessed be! 

Seraphina 

Not Everyone Matters

Once you stop living your life for everyone else and start living your life for yourself, you find out who your true friends really are. Those who just wanted something from you, to use you and throw you away, suddenly dissappear, and all who remain are those who actually care about you. This number may be small, in fact it’s usually about two or three, but those two or three people are always there for you no matter what. Sometimes a person you thought was your best friend ends up being one of those disappearing acts. It hurts but you are better off for it in the end.

By trying to eliminate things that are tying me down so I can seamlessly move across the country, I feel like I’ve lost a lot of people. One person in particular has used me time and time again and now that I’ve come to terms with it, they have basically left my life completely. Over and over again I have seen this person, my best friend, destroy everything they worked hard for and run to me to save the day. 

No more. I’m not in the saving mood any longer. I don’t want relationships, friendships included, that require me to save someone. I want all the people in my life to walk beside me, not in front of or behind me. I want people in my life that support me as much as I support them. I want people who work WITH me.

“The light from the fires of the bridges I’m burning will guide my way.”

I would love to find someone that will travel the world with me. An adventure partner. Be that a friendship or a relationship, it doesn’t matter. Will I find that person here? Most likely not. I’ve burned so many bridges here in my hometown, I’m surrounded by flames. Granted those flames are giving me the strength and the energy I need to go somewhere completely new and uproot my entire life and start over.

That being said, one soul has touched mine and stoked the fire inside of me, so to speak. This soul brought my name to me, constantly challenges me to think, and gives me a steady unlimited energy stream. I don’t know where this new found connection will take me but I do know that I am better for having met them. I’m putting this in the hands of the universe. Where ever it leads, it leads. If it doesn’t go anywhere, so be it.

Start living your life for YOU and everyone you don’t need will go away and leave those who love you standing there with open arms. Remember: NOT EVERYONE MATTERS. Only a select few matter and those are the ones to focus on. Stop focusing on how other people see you and just BE you.

Blessed be!

Seraphina 

Don’t Waste It

A lot of people were shocked when I quit my teaching career. “You’re leaving a salaried position to go back to bartending?” Or “you’re leaving a respectable job to be a BARTENDER?” Or “your money is never promised in that line of work.” I was called an embarrassment.

I had to do something. I was getting sick every morning before I would get to work. I was having panic attacks three or four times a day. I HATED teaching. I HATED going to work. I didn’t want to wake up in the morning. I was miserable.

So I put in my resignation and got hired on at a bar in Richmond. I HAD to do it. Teaching was literally killing me. 

Now I am so incredibly happy. I get antsy waiting to leave my house for work. Bartending is an art and a science. I get to meet new people every day and I get to see some of the same faces. Every shift is different from the last. I don’t have to live in a box. I can go out and do whatever I want to do without fear of the public seeing me and then losing my job. 

I came across this today which prompted this post:

This is what I have been doing for the past year. Even through the heartbreak I have seriously been happier than I have in my entire life. I am no longer living a life that everyone else wants me to live. I am living for ME. I will eventually find a person that will want to share my life and appreciate me for who I am and what I do, but for right now I am doing what I want to do.

So, take the picture, take the selfie, go to that old bookstore, travel across the country, travel to other countries, go see the world, be happy with who you are and what you want. You only have one life so live it how you want to live it. I know I am and it feels amazing. 

Don’t waste your life.

Seraphina